In his book on Dostoevsky, Rowan Williams neatly catches the complex intertwining of the love of self, other, and God:

“To love the freedom of the other [that is, the otherness of the other] is also to love oneself appropriately - as an agent of God’s giving of liberty to the neighbor, as a God-like ‘author’ of their identity; that is, not as a dictator of their fate but as a guarantor of their open future.”